My Story

I grew up in a loving home with 3 siblings. As much as my parents loved us, there were moments of reactivity, shame, emotional, and spiritual abuse throughout my childhood that had a negative effect on my beliefs about myself and my worth. My parents had no intention in causing harm. They were simply doing what was, likely, done to them growing up, which is the case for most of us, isn't it? We do what we know.

I never realized just how much this affected me until I was married with kids of my own. The dysfunctional childhood patterns started to emerge in my parenting and in my interactions with my spouse.  

My wife would tell me that I seem tense, irritable, rigid, and I would be dominant and judgmental when stressed. Of course I wasn't intending to act this way, but I was acting this way nonetheless. I began to recognize how my defenses were creating a block in me - that I struggled to look at my behavior and how it was affecting those around me. The more I dug into this, the more I started to see that I was re-enacting many of the same patterns I grew up with and wasn't even aware I was doing it!

I also realized how important it is to be a safe person for the people I love. I recognized how reactivity breaks the bonds of connection and slowly drives relationships apart because people don't know how to be SAFE for one another.

I vowed that this would be my mission - to teach others how SAFETY is the foundation to having a loving and connected relationship...and so Breaking Reactive Patterns: The Blueprint For Building A Safe And Healthy Relationship was born.

Why I Teach The Importance Of Relational Safety

I do it because there are so many people who don't understand how to be emotionally safe for themselves, their partners, or kids. They end up hurting the people they love and increase the chances of relationship failure.

I do it because I understand how to transform the dysfunctional patterns that got formed in childhood, so you don't do to your family what was done to you. 

I do it to help you know yourself in a completely different way. To know why you do what you do and teach you how to become more integrated with your values and authentic. 

I do it to end any generational trauma that might get passed on to kids. To teach you how to help your partner heal from your reactivity and hurtful behaviors. 

I do it because it's now my mission to bring this to each person who's willing to do the work to  heal from the past, live in peace, and to be connected and loved.