Unlock the power to transform your relationships by breaking free from the conflict patterns that sabotage your relationships. In this class, you’ll gain the tools to recognize and overcome the patterns of reactivity and conflict - the saboteurs of lasting connection and trust. Imagine feeling in control, navigating conflicts with confidence, and repairing past hurts to build a bond that’s deeper and more resilient than ever before. It’s time to step into a version of yourself who can create the healthy, connected relationships you truly desire.

Join me, and start your journey to real, lasting change.

 Does this sound like you?

You KNOW you have a history of problems regulating emotions and your reactivity leads to conflict with the people you love. You see yourself getting upset or angry over little things -  blowing up or shutting down, and wondering "why can't I just chill out"? You struggle to have perspective in the moment and you can see that this is creating distance and hurt in your relationship.

Once you calm down, you end up apologizing and committing to trying to do better, but you end up in the same cycle when you get triggered. It makes your relationship tense and awkward and the trust and intimacy are breaking down. 

You can see this having a negative effect on your relationship with your partner and kids.You can feel your partner pulling away and you fear that the relationship is failing or heading for separation or divorce. 

You WANT to change, but can't seem to change. 

Why can't I solve the problem?

Individual therapy or couples therapy / and reading books just doesn't seem to create the lasting change you and your partner need.  

The Reason?

Because you're working on the wrong things. 

When you have these patterns in times of stress or conflict  - then reading books on improving your relationship will GET YOU NOWHERE until you learn to consistently be emotionally regulated and safe.

Reactivity and conflict poisons our relationships and too much of it wires your partners nervous system to protect against the reactive person. When that person is YOU - the relationship is in trouble.

 The #1 reason for divorce and the failure of a relationship is conflict, which builds resentment and contempt because of how we are treated and the lack of our ability to repair and reconnect. 

Why Am I Like This? 

Safety and Security are the FOUNDATION of Love and Connection, and reactivity erodes that foundation.

To become a person who is able to connect and stay connected requires an unlearning of beliefs you were taught and new learning to update that old programming.

Too often people have no idea how much their past has influenced their ability to connect.

The pain from previous interactions with dysfunctional people taught us to be overly protective to keep ourselves safe. Unfortunately, what we learned in our childhood and teens is now sabotaging our current relationship.

This MUST be corrected to become Safe And Secure.

  Devin found himself in this situation and felt desperate for answers. Through the program he realized that he was never taught how to regulate his upsets and emotions. Click the picture to listen to Devin's story of how he's tried just about everything and nothing worked for him until now. 

 Breaking Reactive Patterns: The Blueprint To Build A Safe And Healthy Relationship takes you right to the heart of the issue and we start there, building from the ground up.

I've been doing therapy since 2001. I've also struggled with reactivity due to how I was raised and my own dysfunctional programming.

I've taken those years of experience and created a program that I wish I would have had when I was in my 20's. A program that would have saved me and my loved ones from years of struggle. 

There is no other program out there like this - specifically aimed at learning to control the reactivity pattern itself and heal the root cause of the problem - our inability to regulate our emotional states due to unconscious programming.

The program is designed to build upon itself - taking you step by step to know yourself in an entirely new way and to teach you who you must be to have a connected and fulfilling relationship, reshaping your identity to one you can feel proud of and finally feel content and worthy of giving and receiving the love you've always wanted.

Please be aware...this program is NOT for everyone.

It is specifically for the people who are absolutely serious about transforming themselves and committed to repairing and saving their relationships.

It's time! 

Schedule a discovery call with me by clicking the orange buttons on this page.

When we meet I will go over the details of the program and answer all of the questions you have to be sure this is the right fit for you!

I look forward to speaking with you!